Sado-Masochism: S/M in BDSM

“Choke me Daddy!”, “Spank me!!”, “ Pull my hair Daddy!!!” In one form or the other, S/M or Sadomasochism is a common feature when it comes to spicing up the bedroom sessions and making things kinkier. 

Sadomasochism is a combination of two words; Sadism and Masochism and is the final section of the BDSM abbreviation.

Sadism, simply put, is deriving pleasure, often of a sexual nature from inflicting pain or humiliation. Previously believed to be a mental health issue, Sadism has become widely accepted as simply a kink or sexual preference.

Masochism is the derivation of pleasure from self-humiliation or pain. Inflicting it falls within the bound of masochism. Masochists are mostly submissive, as one of the tools of BDSM is pain and humiliation.

Here’s Where It Gets Fun

S/M fits into a number of settings. And what’s more, you can control the degree of pain and humiliation you inflict on your partner following the SSC(Safe, Sane and Consensual) rules, of course. For the most part, pain is a great accompaniment to pleasure. Biting, scratching, spanking and choking all fall into it and sexually active couples testify to this effect. Even being called bitch or a naughty girl during a sesh falls within mild S/M. Kinky, yeah?

Here’s Why? 

When the body is in pain the brain produces chemicals, hormones that when mixed with the endorphins secreted in pleasure is a powerful cocktail. This cocktail of hormones is both intense and addictive especially at orgasm, which is especially strong. Controlling the pain and keeping it at the right level with pleasure is key is practising and enjoying BDSM.

For the more daring and adventurous, a BDSM session can include whips, paddles, dog chains and collars, etc as well as other tools both physical and mental used at the dom’s discretion. Inflicting of pain as well as receiving pain is a sensitive process which requires a ton of communication and trust between the dom and sub.

The tools used in a BDSM dungeon are only limited by the dominant’s creativity and the pleasure/fantasy of the sub/dom. 

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To enjoy a BDSM session you’ll have to trust and talk to your partner about fantasies more than just the surface, but intense or intimate fantasies. So next time you’re in the bedroom, grab your partner by the hair or throat and see if they like it. They just might😉.

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